Let’s face it, all help is self-help. The only person who can think for you is you. Sure there are those who, from time to time, guide us and support us. But ultimately we have to discover how to help ourselves – find ways to do things that work, to unlearn bad habits and learn some good ones.
Self-help – Alice and the cat
Said Alice to the cat –
“‘Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.
‘I don’t much care where …’
said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.’ said the Cat.
‘.. so long as I get somewhere.’ Alice added as an explanation.
‘Oh, you’re sure to do that,’ said the Cat, ‘if you only walk long enough.'”
From Lewis Carroll’s Alice In Wonderland
Self-Help – Knowing what you want
Getting “somewhere” is what a lot of us do. Knowing where we want to go – and getting there – well now you’re talking about life as is should be. As Covey says, it’s important to always “start with the end result in mind”. Before we begin the journey, it’s important to know what we want.
“Knowing what we want” – it sounds so simple doesn’t it. Yet most of us throughout our lives have progressively scaled back our expectations:
– to avoid disappointment, and
– to face “reality”.
In the end, we lose the ability to dream of what could be. Without being conscious of it, we’ve put ourselves into a small small box.
So part of the “work” that we need to do is get ourselves out of the box.
Self-Help – What’s important
I love the Abraham analogy of the GPS that Jerry and Esther Hicks used in their “monster bus”. the GPS never asks – “Where have you been? or “How did you get here?” or “Why didn’t you take my advice yesterday?” or “Why do you want to go there?” The GPS 
knows – Point A – where they are from the satellite data. The only piece of information then
needed is – Point B – “Where do you want to go?”. With just those two pieces, Magellan lays out the course.
The Universe is the same. Here’s what’s NOT important:
How you got here (to Point A)
How long you’ve been here
How many times you’ve tried to move somewhere else
How your parents helped/hindered
How uncomfortable/upset/ angry/depressed you are here
– and one other thing,
HOW ON EARTH YOU’RE GOING TO GET TO THERE (Point B)
What you need to get clear on is Point B – where you want to be. The Universe will plot a course for you.
You don’t have to figure out the “HOW” – the Universe will arrange circumstances and events to line you
up with your vision in ways that you couldn’t orchestrate with a lifetime of effort.
Self Help – if you’re new to the Law Of Attraction, there’s a ton of free information on this site, and
we invite you to come join us on our weekly Open Calls (they’re free). Bring your questions.